Most people who read or heard of this story would say that you should not harbor feelings of anger toward another person and that it somehow diminishes who you are and who you could become.  Dr. Phil, on the Today Show, this morning, stated that it was too late and that these statements should have been made when this mother was alive.  For all we know maybe they were stated previously and I feel that this was an appropriate way to end the torment and lasting effects of abuse.  The following is the story behind this obituary.

The children of a Reno woman have penned what may just be the most scathing obituary ever published.  It appeared in Tuesday’s webpage of the Reno Gazette-Journal, and the terse obituary commemorates the life and misdeeds of Marianne Theresa Johnson, who died at the age of 78 on Aug. 30.

Excerpts from the obituary reads as follows:

“She is survived by her 6 of 8 children whom she spent her lifetime torturing in every way possible.  While she neglected and abused her small children, she refused to allow anyone else to care or show compassion towards them.  When they became adults she stalked and tortured anyone they dared to love.  Everyone she met, adult or child was tortured by her cruelty and exposure to violence, criminal activity, vulgarity, and hatred of the gentle or kind human spirit.”

 “On behalf of her children whom she so abrasively exposed to her evil and violent life, we celebrate her passing from this earth and hope she lives in the after-life reliving each gesture of violence, cruelty, and shame that she delivered on her children.  Her surviving children will now live the rest of their lives with the peace of knowing their nightmare finally has some form of closure.  Most of us have found peace in helping those who have been exposed to child abuse and hope this message of her final passing can revive our message that abusing children is unforgivable, shameless, and should not be tolerated in a ‘humane society.  Our greatest wish now, is to stimulate a national movement that mandates a purposeful and dedicated war against child abuse in the United States of America.”

Apparently, the tone of the obituary went over the line for the editors at the Journal, as it was removed from the newspaper’s site later in the day.

The shame of this story is firstly that it occurred, secondly, that it apparently was endured by these children for a long period of time with no interjection by anyone, and thirdly, that some people would criticize them now for their negative feelings toward their mother.

The editors at the Journal were wrong in burying the story along with this so called mother.  Let’s hid the reality of abuse and pretend that it does not exist because the obituary that was submitted may harm our sensibilities.  Let’s continue to bury our heads in the sand because these “children” should not have written such a scathing obituary for their mother.  These editors, by ignoring the issue, perpetuated the problem.

I applaud these children and say that they have shined the light by exposing the true harm and destruction of child abuse.  They have ended the cycle of abuse and their mother deserves whatever comes to her in the hereafter.  Be care what you sow.