I felt compelled to add some additional tips for women to use to help keep them safe or, at least, diminish the chances of becoming a victim of violence.  Some of these may seem repetitive, but I was trying to expand on them a little, so don’t get too excited.

When you are walking:

Stay on well-traveled streets.  Avoid taking shortcuts through areas that have an absence of people, like wooded areas, parks, parking lots, or alleys.

Don’t flash around large amounts of cash or other tempting articles such as expensive jewelry or clothing.

Carry your purse close to your body, not dangling by the straps.  Put your wallet in an inside coat pocket or front pants pocket, do not use a back pocket.

Always have a personal alarm or personal protection device such as pepper spray, or Taser, or weapon handy.  Make sure that you are familiar with the proper handling of these items and you have practiced getting them out of your bag.

Only use automated teller machines (ATM) in the daytime.  Have your card in your hand and never approach one, in which, there are people standing around.

When going to your car or your door always have your keys in your hand.  They also make a good weapon to stick in someone’s eyes

If you think that someone is following you, switch direction or cross the street.  If they switch directions or also cross the street, run to an open store, restaurant, or any lite place where there are other people.  Then call someone to pick you up.

When you are driving:

Always know where you are going and the best and safest way to get there.

Always make sure that you have enough gas to get to where you are going and enough to get back.  Also, when traveling or in a strange city, know what areas are safe to be in.

Always roll up the windows and lock car doors, even if you’re coming right back. Check inside and out before getting in.
Avoid parking in isolated areas.  Be especially alert in parking lots and underground parking garages.  Always park in a well-lighted, heavily traveled area.

If you think you are being followed, don’t head home.  Drive to the nearest police or fire station, gas station, or other open business to get help.
Don’t pick up hitchhikers.  Don’t hitchhike.

Always take charge of your own personal protection by having pepper spray, a stun gun or Taser handy.

When you’re stopped at a light or stop sign, leave enough space to pull around the vehicle in front of you.  An easy way to gauge this is to stop your car so that you can still see the rear tires of the car in front of you touching the pavement. If anyone approaches your vehicle in a threatening manner, you will have enough room to pull away.

Beware of the “bump and rob.”  It works like this: A car rear ends, or bumps you in traffic.  You get out to check the damage and the driver or one of the passengers jumps into your car and drives off.  Look around before you get out; make sure other cars or around.  If you feel uneasy, stay in the car and insist on moving to a busy place or police station.  Call the police right away.

Road Rage:

Many motorists become victims every day because of “road rage.”  Many drivers get angry when someone cuts them off or tailgates them.  A lot of drivers get angry at slow drivers.  Violent incidents on the road recorded by police have increased more than 50 percent over the last five years.  The following are some tips to avoid becoming involved in a “road rage” confrontation;

Don’t let another motorist egg you on into getting into a confrontation on the highway. If someone is tailgating you, let them pass.  Don’t take bad drivers personally.
Avoid eye contact with an obviously aggressive driver.
Don’t make obscene gestures.  Use your horn sparingly, as a warning, not as an expression of anger.
Make sure you give yourself plenty of time to get where you are going.  Being stressed because you are running late can make you an aggressive driver with a short temper.
If you see someone driving aggressively, stay out of their way and contact the police. Consider carrying a cellular phone in your car to contact police in the event of an encounter with an aggressive driver.
When you are at home:

Make sure all doors and windows are locked.
Have a “peep hole” installed in your door.
If someone knocks on your door and asks to use the phone, do not let them in.  Tell
them you will make the call if they give you the phone number.
If leaving the house for several hours leave the TV or radio on.
Install an intrusion (burglar) alarm.
Have several lights set on a timer for when you go out at night.
Have a personal protection device such as a Taser, stun gun or pepper spray handy.

 

Here are 10 additional tips to help keep you safe:

One:  It’s a good idea to have friends and to form lasting relationships.  We are, social creatures, and whether or not your friends are male or female; there is nothing more important to your safety than having good friends.  A good friend is one that won’t bail on your when things get rough or weird.  A good friend won’t let you walk home after dark when they have a car.  A good friend won’t leave you at a party when you’ve been drinking.  A good friend will be there when you need them, even if it is difficult in some way for them.  To have good friends, you must also be a good friend.  So, never travel alone to bars, nightclubs, parties, or other social gatherings.

Two:  Don’t accept being pawed or handled  or touched in any inappropriate way that you are not comfortable with.  Nobody gets to touch you without your saying it’s okay. It doesn’t matter if you are at a bar, work, a party.  Tell them no!  Tell them to stop, and if they don’t take action and notify someone.  Report sexual harassment at work.

Three:  Drinking too much will probably happen at some time in your life.  Don’t get drunk or high in unfamiliar surroundings.  For some reason, some guys seem to think that it is alright that passed out girls are far game as far as sex goes.   Make sure that you always party with a group of people that you know, and if you do get drunk, have a plan with the group.  Who is going to drive?  Will any of these people help you out of the party if you need it?

Four:  This is a repeat but, carry a cell phone.  If you don’t have a cell phone, know where the public places are nearby of where ever you are.  On most college campus’s there are emergency phones.  Know where they are.  You need to have some sort of recourse to get help if you need it.

Five:  Do not walk at night alone.  Not from school, not from class at college, not from the store down the street.  Riding a bike is better, but still not great.  Travel in groups.  A lone female is a target to a lone assailant.  A group is not.

Six:  Here is another repeat, but don’t look like a victim. These sound a little stupid, but perps do look for easy prey.  If you look like a deer caught in the headlights, someone is going to run over you.  I call it the ‘don’t mess with me’ look.  Walk with your head up.  Have your money and stuff stored on your person, not in some flimsy purse that is easily snatched.  Don’t be confrontational, just be a person who knows where they are going and get there quickly.

Seven:  Make some noise…scream, yell, or blow a whistle. If you are being attacked or even if someone frightens you, scream your God-damned head off.  Not only does this attract attention from others, but it might give you a chance to run away.

Eight:  Get away.  Do not try and fight off attackers that can overpower you.  Scream and run. Never get in the car.  If someone tries to take you away, they are more than likely not planning on bringing you back.  Even if they have some sort of weapon, scream and run away.

Nine:  Report crimes, even if you are embarrassed or afraid of what other people think of you. Even if you think it’s your fault.  Most rape victims go through a period of self-recrimination and self-loathing.  If someone has sex with you when you are passed out, that is not your fault.  You did not consent.  It is in fact rape, and is not normal behavior.  Men don’t do that.  So report it.  It doesn’t matter if you have had sex with multiple partners before that; it is still not your fault.  If you don’t report it, then next weekend another girl will be sitting where you are and wondering how she is going to get up tomorrow and how she is going to go to class or work and how she will ever let anyone touch her again.  If you are underage and the person you had sex with is over eighteen, guess what?  That’s considered rape.  Don’t think you have to just deal with the consequences, even if you kind of agreed to have sex.  Report it, even if it’s hard, and it will be.  There is no guarantee that reporting it will result in charges being filed or a rapist being off the street, but it could.  And that makes it worth it.

Ten:  All things being said, this includes not being afraid to leave the house and experience life.  Do the things you feel that you need to do, just do them with your brain turned on.  Women should keep expecting things to get better, not worse.  Both men and women should be held accountable for their actions, good and bad, and with more information out there for victims less people will be victims.

Know the area you are in. Check out the locations of police and fire stations, public telephones, hospitals, and restaurants, or stores that are open late. Any public place where there are other people.  Remember that the best person to keep you safe is you.

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